I gave a friend (who is using biglybt) a magnet of something I am seeding we can see each other as connected but he doesn't see that I have any files and in tixati his status is all red

I have since tested this with two tixati clients and torrent files, it seems like this must be an issue with the proxy im using?
its quite strange since I can seed fine through the proxy otherways.
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i would guess that neither of you is connectable.

This was fixed for v2.77.

Thanks for this report.