It says "unconfirmed incoming port" and it doesnt explain in settings how to confirm an incoming port

when I looked on this website, the screen selection for incoming ports looks nothing like my version of Tixati (2.56)

How does one select an incoming port to speed things up?

"unconfirmed incoming port" means Tixati has not received ANY incoming connections on the selected port, I.e. the port is not forwarded and/or open in the firewall.