Can tixati have a setting  like a checkbox where it can show the external ip on the client top bar or something only when check is allowed in setting which is unchecked by default or in pears where our ip is connected i think with self soemthing if it shows a colour on it will also do.

If you go to a torrent and click on the Peers tab, you can scroll through (sometimes at the bottom) and see in the status column "Self Connect".  That is you.